DEALING WITH INFIDELITY IN MARRIAGE
2. Do not make any major decisions about ending your marriage now. Do a relationship inventory to investigate the root cause of the infidelity.
3. Understand it was your spouse's choice to be unfaithful irrespective of what has transpired between you before the incident.
4. Don't stick your head in the sand or take blame for your partner's actions.
5. Find forgiveness! Do not let the rage destroy you. Be merciful in your dealings.
6. Embrace the roller coaster of emotions that run through your mind, don't live in denial.
7. Try not to get into blaming game of who and what caused the infidelity.
8. Openly talk about the affair so as to get right insight needed to move on. Share thoughts that led to the infidelity.
9. Learn to deal with resentment knowing fully well that all will not be forgiven at the same time.
10. Do things together! Try new activities! Couples that do things together and have shared interest recover from infidelity more quickly
11. Recommit to the marriage. Reminisce on pleasant and romantic moments in history and recreate them.
12. Don't jump into long - term decisions early in the healing process.
13. Start fresh! Let go of thoughts and behavior that triggers malice and replace them with things that encourage you to be committed
14. Never bring up words that triggers unpleasant memories during a conversation.
15. Practice honesty, Re-establish trust by being truthful about all things.
16. Seek professional help. Talking to counselor can give you both the help that you need.
17. Give yourself time to heal. Don't rush the process.
18. Don't go looking for sex or romance as a way to "get even.
19. Reset or set boundaries about relationships outside marriage.
20. Request that your partner cuts off all communication with the third party.
21. Pray! Trusting God for a speedy recovery and a consistent loving heart towards your spouse.
22. Don't take matters into your hands especially if you have personal anger issues.
23. Do learn everything you can about sexual compulsitivity.
24. Be in the midst of friends and people who love and care about you you.
25. Ask your partner to commit to change and be a help meet in making sure they actually change, equally work on yourself too.
26. Be empathic if you are the unfaithful partner. it's an indicator that the relationship will survive.
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